If you`re at the stage where you and your partner are talking divorce, things are undoubtedly serious and you should act accordingly. This isn't the time for mucking about or behaving as though you don't care. Acknowledge the severity of your situation and let your`re partner know how you feel and how much you`re hurting. BUT, don't allow yourself to behave as though you are needy or weak, simply that you believe the relationship still has a lot to offer and that you remain in love with your spouse.
Admit that you have make mistakes and take a step back so that you can evaluate the situation. Persuading your ex not to go ahead with divorce, will probably mean that you have to change the way you do things, permanently and not just until you have won them back.
Instead of blaming your other half, take responsibility for your part in the break up.
Admit that you made mistakes that cost you your relationship. You have to be able to own up to your mistakes before you can put them right. They were your mistakes, not anyone else's, so admit to them. This is the best place to start if you want to know how to get back together.
Would you give yourself a second chance? Take a good long look at who you are and what it was about you that caused this break up to happen. Were your mistakes a symptom of a bigger problem that you have? If it was, find out what it was and do something to resolve it. Evaluate the situation and assess the damage that has been done to you both. Is there anything worth saving? Hopefully there is still a foundation remaining and the damage wasn't so much that there is nothing left to build on.
If you carry on with your plan to stop your divorce, you need to be sure that your ex is willing to meet you at least half way. It is hard to win back your partner if they don't feel any love for you and have no desire to get things back on track. If they have made up their mind to move on and you continue to pursue them, you risk alienating them from your life forever.
If your ex is willing to talk about anything at all, that`s a good sign, just let it happen without forcing conversation. You may have to endure them venting their anger at you and blasting who you are and letting you know how big the mistakes were that you made. Accept that this is a part of the healing process and don't become defensive - certainly don't attack them in retaliation. Respect what they are saying to you and they will appreciate that you are trying to do the right thing.
It may not be easy to do but if you really want to know how to stop your divorce and save your relationship, you will have to regret what happened and be prepared to eat humble pie.
There are so many steps to winning your ex back and these are just the beginning. when my partner left me, I was in despair and didn't know what to do. I heard about an amazing book and through the author's advice I persuaded my wonderful man to give us another chance. And now we're happier than ever.
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